Building Through Change Without Losing Your Direction
What a cross-country move taught me about staying consistent when everything's up in the air.
TLDR: Big transitions, whether it’s a cross-country move or a new business or your first real AI build, floods you with daily work and makes you feel behind everyone who isn’t in the mess. That does two things. It pulls you off your direction, and it tempts you to stop showing up. Five habits keep you upright: hold one clear mission, remember you’re more than your latest post, trust that nobody is watching as closely as you fear, move imperfectly instead of waiting for motivation, and always restart after you miss. Tell me the Big New Thing you’re pushing through right now.
My whole life is in boxes right now.
I moved across the country. Since the last week I’ve been here, my house has been a maze of cardboard, and the newsletter went quiet while I packed up one life and set down another.
If you have started something big lately, you might know this feeling. I have a floor covered in half-unpacked boxes, you might have a messy inbox and a week full of hour-long meetings. But all the same -- the quiet worry that everyone else kept moving while you fell behind is there.
That’s why I’m writing this; to remind you that you can get through this big thing gracefully, and to remind myself that I can, too.
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A big change floods you and pulls you off course
A move is a machine for making small tasks. Set up the utilities. Learn the commute. Assemble the furniture. Sort the mountain of packaging that appears from nowhere. None of it can wait, and all of it eats the hours you meant to spend on the work that matters.
A big build does the same to a founder. Stand up a new business, or roll out your first real AI system, and the daily minutia arrives in the same flood. Stakeholder messages pile up, and a design call you cannot skip always lands at the worst time. The work you can point to on a map gets buried under the work you cannot.
If you are standing up a new business, or rolling out a change as big as your first AI system, you already know this floor. Same if you are a creator launching or rebuilding while everything else is unsettled. The Big New Thing demands everything while your old routines fall apart underneath you.
That flood does two kinds of damage.
It pulls you off your direction so slowly you do not notice until you are weeks off course. And it makes you feel so far behind everyone else that you are tempted to stop showing up at all.
What five weeks of upheaval taught me about not stalling
I have been in this transition since around June, when a week-long event pulled me offline and the move swallowed everything after. Long enough to watch which habits kept me upright and which ones let me tip over.
The first thing a big change threatens is your sense of where you are going, so the first lesson I learned was to protect your direction. The rest of what it threatens is whether you keep moving without burning out or quitting on the thing entirely. Thus, the next four protects your momentum.
1. Don’t lose sight
A big transition is when it pays to have a north star.
Most days, the work in front of you will try to become the whole world.
Anyone who has done a cross-country move can tell you how total it feels. The setup list never ends. The environment is new, the people are new, and you are building routines from nothing. It crowds out the reason you moved in the first place.
A build does the same. You get pulled into debugging, stakeholder updates, and the hundred small design choices that cannot be ignored, the same way I cannot ignore the furniture and the garbage bags. The work is real enough, but it can also pull you off-course.
A mission is how you see through it. That’s why it’s the first Pillar of my Unpromptability philosophy -- a mission that you truly care about.
When you know the one change you are here to make, you can look up from the daily handiwork and check whether you are still pointed at it. You catch the drift in week two instead of month three, and course-correction early will only cost you a small turn.
2. You’re more than your latest post
I have felt behind since June. First the event, then the move, and all the while Substack kept moving without me. Everyone in it going forward with life as normal while I sorted boxes.
It is hard not to feel behind when the timeline never pauses for you. The plain version is basic, and true anyway. You are more than your latest post, and more than your latest ship.
It is fine to drop the ball on your online presence when the rest of life gets loud. A founder who goes quiet mid-build has not stalled. The work just moved somewhere the timeline cannot see it. Your health and your relationships outrank the feed every time, and so does anything you are actually learning.
Your energy will ebb and flow, and so will your attention. You will not run every project, AI or otherwise, at full power all the time. That is normal.
You still have your north star. When you have been heads-down for a while, look up. At the very least you will know which way to go.
3. Nobody’s watching that closely
The move wrecked my publishing and my community engagement, and it made me anxious. Most of that anxiety traces back to a vague, faceless “them.”
I worry “they” will be put off by my absence. Readers will notice I went quiet. Potential clients will forget me. Peers will think less of me.
Most of it is not real. People are not paying as much attention to us as we imagine. The market is not studying your half-finished project the way your own head is at 2 a.m.
And the few who are paying real attention tend to have your back. They have had their own setbacks and busy seasons, so they give grace for the things you cannot control. Give yourself the same. Nobody out there is deducting points because you missed a week.
4. Half-assing is underrated
Do things sad. Do things scared. Do them lonely, and do them badly. Do them imperfectly.
I keep repeating this to myself, because my place is in shambles. Boxes open and unopened, laundry starting to climb the walls. On days like that it is easy to wait for a wave of motivation to lift you back into action. But that’s a trap. Big transitions and big projects keep pulling you along, and they leave no gap for motivation to catch up.
So move imperfectly. This is where a build rewards you fast. Ship the rough version. Push the ugly first automation that still saves you an hour a day. Commit the code that works before it is clean.
A half-done system running in the world beats a perfect one still living in your head.
Something is almost always better than nothing.
5. Always pick yourself back up
A friend once told me why he regretted his gym membership. “I knew I shouldn’t have signed up,” he said. “I know myself. Once I miss a day, I never go back.”
I have a rhythm I hold myself to. Two articles a week, every week. When I miss one, the pull to just not start again is enormous. Right now, in the middle of all this, it is stronger than ever.
It is not only the newsletter. There is a build I set down when the move started, an experiment I told myself I would reopen and have not touched since. The unfinished thing gets easier to abandon the longer it sits.
Get buried in the day to day, run at less than full power, drop the ball on the project and the publishing both. All of it is survivable. But remember: the successful did one thing differently: they picked themselves back up.
At some point you just have to tuck your chin and do it. I have to. Writing this is me reaching.
What to carry out of your own mess
You might be in your own version of this. A launch mid-flight. A system half-built and waiting. You might not have the moving boxes that I do, the half-built furniture, and the second-floor that, as I discovered, had such bad ventilation that it feels like an oven at noon. Your problems will look different, but swimming through it might feel the same.
Write one sentence for your direction, the change you are here to make, and keep it somewhere you will see it on the hard days.
Let yourself go quiet when life gets loud, without reading it as failure. Move imperfectly, and let the rough version ship. Keep one rule for restarting, so a missed week never turns into a missed season.
Do that, and you keep your direction and your momentum through the part of the year that takes both from most people. That is most of what makes someone hard to replace. You kept pointing the same way, and you kept building while the mess ran its course.
My life is still in boxes. This one is as much for me as it is for you.
Tell me the Big New Thing you are pushing through right now. I want to know what my people are building while everything else is up in the air.
P.S. If you have been quiet lately and felt bad about it, take this as your permission slip. Look up, find your direction, and move imperfectly.